Fickleness

I wanted to type this post in Mandarin, having not blogged in my mother tongue before. But a change of mind and here I am.

Fickle. Just like Man's nature and mind. The mind is a slave to the heart, and the heart the mother to all selfish desires and sinful lust.

I am not here to condemn anyone. The world is overwhelmed with stings that kills the spirit and dries up the bones. No, I am trying to reserve such sentiments to the confine of this site, only available to those who seek it and try to understand it.

I am a guy. For reasons best known to the Creator, my feelings and thoughts are often underdeveloped, even when I am older. Sentiments and capricious emotions are puzzling to a male's mind. This feature greatly affects our way of looking at things, and our interpretation of things perceived. Logic seems to dictate our mind's operations, though with varying degree. The heart's role is very much limited relatively, when compared to our female correspondent. There is, as I see it, no clear distinction of advantages and disadvantages, and degrading into arguments of this sort will only defeat the purpose of the Creator.

For a guy, in my opinion, things are best when they are easy. Logic is easier as the male's eyes perceive. Things happen for a reason, and that reason, no matter how elusive, should be brought out into the light for all to see. No male will sit and try to understand something as complicated as the heart and her Pensieve. Different things matter differently to males and females as well. Males tend to emphasize on power and status, while women are quite happy to sit and chat and use their feelings and words to create a connection. That is not how a man with the right male hormones operates.

The trouble to point all these out, when it is actually quite obvious for all to see, is the problems that these differences may create, especially when they are treated as liabilities instead of characteristics to be cherished. A most straightforward example will be communication between the two sex, where interpretation plays a most significant role. And they occur again and again, on a daily basis, all around you and me, unless some great sage with transcending knowledge of both parties drops from the sky and offers wisdom.

Perhaps that is why most people will happily label their relationship ordeal as 'It's Complicated'.

As I see it, these differences should not be treated as hindrances to a healthy relationship. The only obstacle that stands between the chasm is the parties themselves. A guy may simply or even rudely dismiss his female friends as being stupid and ridiculous when he fails to understand their reaction. A girl may retaliate by thinking that the guy is immature, and is a 'jerk', and whatnot. Both are stubborn in their own ways, and their arrogance leads to ignorance, which blinds them. Is it not important, to try and understand, to try and tolerate? Why insist on your rights when you are infringing others? Why the stubborn persistence, when no cardinal principles of life and death is in place?

Tolerance. Patience. Understanding. Equation. Relation.

It's a pity when things just do not work out, or turn an ugly turn. But then again, if things are not ugly enough, humans will never learn from their own mistakes, and forget about repentance. A punch in the stomach, or a slap on the cheek, is always good remedy for a stubborn person in a tight situation.

P/S: This whole thing is laughable, especially to matured animals. Still...

They cannot befriend,

They gotta follow the trend

So they can blend

With the couples at the end.